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A close friend of mine got engaged in a very cute and creative way. She is a huge movie buff and her fiance (we’ll call him Bob) made plans for them to attend a new movie that just came out.

He arranged his plans with the theater and the plan was for the man running the film to screen a film Bob had made that appeared relatively anonymous but mentioned that someone in the theater has met the love of his life etc etc. When the lights went down and Bob’s film started to play she read the words on the screen and turned to Bob and said “Oh my God, someone is totally going to get engaged!”

Bob laughed and stood up and got down on one knee and proposed. Of course she was shocked and said yes and everyone in the theater started to clap. The best part was the Bob had arranged for their parents and sisters and closest friends to be in the theater far behind them so she wouldn’t notice until after the proposal.

I smile every time I think about that night. They’ve been married for 3 years now and it’s still one of my favorite engagement stories of all time.

It seems popular now to come up with a spectacular and often very public way of asking someone to be your spouse. I think that is really going overboard and in most cases is just not necessary. A lot of women would rather have a very romantic but less public moment.

For example, a great way of asking someone to marry you is while you’re doing something you both like to do together. My husband asked me to marry him while we were out fly fishing together. We were on one of our favorite streams and we had stopped, as we always do, at 4pm to have some wine, cheese and crackers.

As we sat there by the river, sipping our wine, he said he couldn’t think of anyone he loved more and would I marry him? It was perfect. We may not have looked our best while we were wearing our waders, but we had just spent a lovely day together enjoying the outdoors and catching some nice fish.

There wasn’t anyone else involved, just us and I thought it was perfect (of course, I said yes). That was almost 30 years ago and we still fly fish together, we still stop by the side of the stream at 4pm for wine, cheese and crackers, and we still love each other just as much.

For us, making that moment connect with something we both enjoyed doing together was what counted, not a big display of overdone hype.